create an empowering dream board

Whether you call it a dream board, vision board, or treasure map, the process of creating your own board is a powerful first step to achieving your goals. Your board serves as a visualization tool by providing a snapshot of your “desired future” … it helps you focus your goals and envision where you want to go, what you want to do, who you want to become, what you want to have … and with whom you want to enjoy it all!

5 things to consider before creating your kick-ass board 

1.     The #1 rule. dreams vision-board1 vision-board-poster

… actually, it’s the only rule:  Have fun with it! Think big. Think ideal. Think the moon. Think “What would I do if I knew I could not fail?” If an idea or goal does not excite, or even scare you a little, it’s not daring enough – and chances are it will drop off your radar as one more ho-hum thing to do.

2.     Your board must resonate with you on an emotional level.

Looking at your finished vision board MUST create an emotional charge that you feel in your body … you should feel a “yes!” in the belly that revs you, reminds you where you’re going, propels you to take action, fires you to succeed.

Visualization is meant to raise your level of vibration, so as you create your board, only include goals that challenge you, and images that spark real desire.

Don’t add images just because they’re pretty, or might be nice to have. Don’t include certain goals because you think you “should”.

And don’t include the dreams,  aspirations, and expectations that others project for you. This is your board … your life to create!

3.     Consider the type of board you prefer.

I’m using the term board, which implies a flat board that you’d pin to a wall, but you might prefer a folding board, like a large menu; or a portable three-ring binder, scrapbook, or ringed note cards. You might prefer a document or workbook on your computer or tablet. Or you might prefer a mindmapping software. Consider your lifestyle and work style, and do what works best for you. (I create a flat board to pin on the wall, then shoot it with Evernote camera, so it’s always with me on my smartphone and synced on my laptop.)

4.     Determine whether to create a single board or multiple boards.

career-vision-boardSome prefer to encompass all of their goals on one board. Others prefer separate boards for different purposes, or different roles and goals  e.g.,  family, money, health, marriage, career (like the one on the left).

Since I’m very visual and tend to take a global perspective on things, I typically prefer one global board that encompasses all aspects of my life.  It gives me the big picture view I need, and keeps all of my goals in front of me. However, when I work on a really intense project or longer-term assignment, like a book or film project, I might make an additional board dedicated to that specific project. It helps focus goals and visualization around that project, and prevents my global board from becoming cluttered.

5.     Your board is a visualization tool, not a panacea. Visualization works … when supported by action.

Without action, your board is merely a collage. You’ve heard the expression “Where focus goes, energy flows” – your daily actions and thoughts must support your goals. As a visualization tool your board should align with your overall written plan. (Assuming you have one, your written plan defines your objectives, goals, strategy, tactics, timelines, and deadlines, etc.).

Creating your board

Select pictures, words, photographs, quotes, textiles, and objects that inspire you.  They represent the experiences, accomplishments, and possessions you want to attract into your life and that are symbolic of the lifestyle you’re in the process of creating. For example, you might want to attract a new lover or marriage partner, a bigger home, a specific car, or new career. You might want to travel through Asia, learn French, take up Salsa dancing, master golf, or lose 50lbs.

Grouping your cutouts into content categories or similar groups – such as family, love, money, career – helps create flow to your story.  I also recommend leaving random space between images or content categories for the following reasons:

  • Too many images create distraction. Covering your whole board, leaving no empty spaces, makes your board look cluttered, even chaotic (and chaos is the last thing you want to attract!).
  • With some background space, the eye can scan your board more effectively, seeing the big picture and the small details.
  • Grouping images into role or goal categories makes it easier for the brain to organize the information, which strengthens visualization.

Positioning your board for best results

One of the most effective places to keep your vision board is by your bed. Aside from your honey, make it the last thing you see before you turn out the light at night, and the first thing you see in the morning. Spend some time looking at it … but it’s not enough to just see it … you must feel it.

  • Envision meeting your goals and internalize the experience.
  • What does that feel like? Do you feel excited, loved, awake, alive? Do you feel knowledgeable, energized, empowered, liberated?
  • Close your eyes; breathe into it. Draw on your senses … what surrounds you in your future life? Imagine smells, touches, tastes, sounds.
  • Feel grateful for what you already have, and for what’s coming. Welcome these things into your life. Embrace them.

Okay, okay … so the first few times you do that, you’ll probably feel a right tosser!  Even if you’re alone. Been there, done that.

But neuroscience shows that what we’re exposed to before we go to sleep works deep in our subconscious. It also shows show that when we visualize, our brain is activated to subconsciously start seeking what we’re looking for. Have you ever bought a rare foreign car that few people have seen, and suddenly you start noticing them everywhere without even looking for them? That’s your brain doing what it’s designed to do.

So get over yourself! Start visualizing morning and night, and any time in between when you have a few moments to yourself. You want this, right?

To share or not?

There’s always debate around whether or not you should share you dream board (and goals in general) with others.  My recommendation is this:

Unless you know with 100% certainty that someone will fully support your aspirations, keep your vision board and goals to yourself.

Many researchers believe that sharing goals leads us to “talk” about them more than “work” on them.

Also, when you share goals at large, you open yourself up to potential sabotage (intentional or otherwise) by the naysayers – by those who don’t understand what you’re aiming for, or who those who might feel threatened that you’re creating change or succeeding where they’re not.

I’ve never found it helpful to share goals with groups or acquaintances, and so I don’t. But I do share with my goal partner, and with trusted family members and friends. Finding the right sharing partner is critical … but that’s another post for another day. Meanwhile, choose your counsel wisely!

The little choices you made yesterday and today may seem inconsequential. But keep making them, and they will design your future – positively or negatively.

Good luck … and have fun creating your board! I’d love to hear about your experiences, successes, and challenges.

and trashy ladies laid him

Look at the following list, my friend, and see if you can guess what it inspired: Scrabble. A rock star. A dictionary. Rhyme. Em dashes. A Chihuahua. Cartoons.

Got it?

The answer is 101 Two-Letter Words – a book of rhyming poems by Indie rock star, Stephin Merritt, illustrated by The New Yorker’s Roz Chast.

Merritt, of course, is the very talented singer-songwriter of The Magnetic Fields.  The band’s recorded 10 albums, including 69 Love Songs, named by Rolling Stone as one of the top 500 albums of all time.

StephinMerrit_Bryant ParkLast month I spoke with Stephin Merritt about the inspiration behind his new book, his favorite poem (think trashy ladies), and his creative process.

Unfortunately, the transcript doesn’t capture how much we laughed!

Vicki: Stephin, you have a passion for playing Scrabble … which one doesn’t necessarily equate with a rock star (although I was married to a rock musician who also liked Scrabble). But there’s an interesting story behind how you became inspired to write this book.

Stephin: As everyone knows, being a rock star is incredibly boring. If it wasn’t … everyone would do it! My life consists largely of waiting around in airports. You can’t actually read anything, because paradoxically, there isn’t enough time to read anything. Basically, I end up spending lots of time playing Scrabble and Words with Friends online. But I couldn’t remember the two-letter words to save my life because I have a horrible memory. So I started making mnemonics for myself, to help me remember the two letter words … gradually, it just sort of turned into a book. My literary agent liked it and shopped it around.

Vicki: I love that you included “em” dashes in the book for us writers.

Stephin: Oh, yes. Where would modern writing be without the em dash and the en dash, and the extremely subtle distinction?

Vicki: Exactly! Your rhymes and Roz’s illustrations make a wonderful, fun combination. Tell us how this all came together … how did you connect with Roz Chast from The New Yorker, first of all.

Stephin: Thank you. Roz Chast wrote me a fan letter two or three days before my editor at Norton suggested that it was time to find an illustrator. I said, “Oh, no need. Here is Roz Chast’s phone number.”stephinmerrittbook

Vicki: That was very serendipitous. Did you guys meet? Did you have input on the illustration? Did you send her notes and ideas?

Stephin: I had no input whatsoever, except for the suggestion that the word “artisanal” was misspelled on the illustration of the box of “Fe”, meaning iron.  I did go to Roz’s house in Connecticut and met her parrot – which was difficult because I have a phobia of parrots. And and I met her family, which was okay because none of them were children … I also have a phobia of children.

Vicki: Let’s talk about some of the two letter words you’ve included.

Stephin: Yes. Za and qi are the most valuable ones. You often play a word that will produce just that and nothing else.

Vicki: I want to read listeners the one about “em” dashes – because I’m partial to em dashes.

“Em dashes — this just in — are used to interrupt a thought. The use of them is subtle — ha — and it cannot be taught.”

I think you had a lot of fun putting these rhymes together.

Stephin: I definitely had a lot of fun putting them together. I did what I usually do when I write, which is sit around in bars with a cocktail in one hand and a pen in the other. I just covered 3 x 5 cards with possible two-letter word poems.

I used as a template the “axe” from: “Lizzie Borden took an axe and gave her mother 40 whacks. When she saw what she had done, she gave her father 41.”

I don’t remember which order the mother and father are in that one … but anyway, that poem was my lighthouse.

Vicki: How do you describe your poems.

Stephin: I’d say they’re quatrain. None of them are especially complicated. They’re all essentially the same rhythmically.

 “Please, no Chinese water torture. I confess it freely: one li is, like, .3 miles; a mile is roughly three li.”

They are all in pairs. There’s one poem per two-letter word. There are 101 poems. I try to have recurring characters, obvious ones such as Ma and Pa, and less obvious like Vampire Dog. And some of the words fall into patterns like the Scottish “Ay”.

Vicki: And the English “Oy”. We don’t say, “Hey,” we say, “Oy!”

Stephin: And in America we say, “Yo!” One day when we’re walking down the street we say, “Yo! Yo!” to everyone we see. Just as the British say, “Oy,” to everyone. There are a thousand little patterns in these deceptively simple two letter words.

Vicki: Some of my favorite illustrations are of Vampire Dog, which you mentioned earlier. I think I read somewhere that the inspiration for Vampire Dog was a Chihuahua.

Stephin: Oh yes. My late Chihuahua, Irving Berlin Merritt, or Irving for short. He had especially bat-like ears … looked like a deer with the head of a bat. He was often asleep in my shirt while I was writing my poems.

Vicki: I love it … my dog sits at my feet when I am writing. Let’s talk about your creative process. You say you enjoy constraints rather than just writing whatever you want. I do too. They may get lost along the way, but to begin with, it’s often easier to access creative flow if I put constraints on myself. I might choose a particular word, a phrase, or a color to start me moving forward. Tell me how that works for you …

Stephin: It’s much easier to be told that you have three minutes to write a limerick or a sonnet, than to be told you have three minutes to write an essay or poem in free meter. I think the formulas we’ve had for centuries – that everyone understands – are easier to work within, rather than inventing your own form every time you sit down. It’s much easier to make a particular food than to invent your own dish every time you try to make lunch.

StephinMerritPlayingVicki: Right. Eric Reidar, our producer, is a huge fan of your music and I promised we’d save time for him to ask about your music. I’m going to throw the mic over to him … Eric, come on in.

Eric: Okay. Thank you very much. Stephin, it’s a pleasure to talk to you. I’m loving the new book. Vicki loaned me a copy of it today. I’m looking forward to perusing that this afternoon. As a Magnetic Fields fan, and a fan of some of your other projects like Gothic Archies and The 6ths, I’m wondering what’s coming next for you musically.

Stephin: I’m working on a mini-musical involved with This American Life. It’s an adaptation of This American Life. Hopefully, it will be its own musical This American Life episode. I’m not sure when it’s supposed to air … I have to finish it first.

Eric: I’m a big fan of This American Life as well. I’m also wondering, as much as I love all your albums, I’ve had the pleasure of seeing The Magnetic Fields live several times, and I’ve always thought the live shows were amazing and wondered why there hasn’t been an official live recording out there. Have you ever wanted to put out a live album?

Stephin: Hell no! I hate live albums.

Vicki: I’m with Stephin on that one. I don’t like listening to all the clapping and cheering every time I listen to the music.

Eric: I can understand that, but he’s a great live performer.

Stephin: They’re like real albums, only mixed really badly and with too much reverb, and all the endings and beginnings mucked up by having white noise in between.

Vicki: I love that “Hell no!”   Let’s end on a literary note with my favorite poem … would you read that to us Stephin?

Stephin: Yes, this is also my favorite poem … it’s the poem for “As”.

“As I Lay Dying, William Faulkner’s seventh novel, made him. He got some cash, a Nobel sash, and trashy ladies laid him.”

So now you know!

~  More about Stephin Merritt and The Magnetic Fields at The House of Tomorrow.

~  Photo Credit Bryant Park: Julie Glassberg for The New York Times.

Excerpted from an interview with Stephin Merritt on Seattle’s Conversations LIVE with Vicki St. Clair, Talk Radio, KKNW, September 2014. Edited for clarity, readability, and length.

finding your creative dna

When Seattle artist Carla Sonheim joined me on the show last year, I asked her to share a key takeaway from a book that we both rank as one of our favorites – The Creative Habit: Learn It and Use It for Life by award-winning choreographer, Twyla Tharp.

Sonheim said her biggest aha moment was discovering Tharp’s theory on “Creative DNA”.  And that once she recognized and understood her own creative DNA, it changed her life and how she works.

“Creativity is learned, nourished, and maintained; for inspiration to flow through us and spring forth from the mind, you must prepare, have rituals that invoke it … know how to scratch the surface of things to extract the essential, use the accidents and incidents that appear in our life, have an idea-base which serves as a backbone for our creation, use our talents wisely, recognize roadblocks and the moments that overtake us, know how to fail, and pace ourselves over the long term – to the very end.”

Twyla Tharp, The Creative Habit.

After reading Tharp’s book nine years TwylaTharpBookago, my key takeaway was a ritual she calls “Subtraction”.

During the beginning phase of a new choreography, Tharp places herself in a bubble of “monomaniacal absorption” where she’s fully invested in nothing but the task at hand.

“I list the biggest distractions in my life and make a pact … to do without them for a week.”

Tharp’s subtractions include

  • Movies
  • Multitasking (no reading on the StairMaster or eating while working)
  • Anything related to numbers such as contracts, bank statements, bathroom scales
  • Background music

When I first read this I thought, brilliant! Obvious, but brilliant.

I implemented the ritual of conscious subtraction right away and it’s become firmly ingrained as a natural part of my creative DNA. I apply it every time I enter a new project phase, or whenever I start feeling overwhelmed – assuming, of course, I remember to subtract in the heat of the moment!

For me, this isn’t a hardship or forced discipline. I find that subtracting for a week, or sometimes even a day or two, helps put me in a different zone where I gain clarity, lockdown focus, and accomplish much more. It creates a working version of the Buddhist state of “being still”.

My subtractions include

  • Newspapers, radio, and television (apart from work)
  • Personal email, snailmail, phone calls, texts — the smart phone’s turned off (yes, shocker, it has an off button!)
  • Socializing, networking, events, meetings, social media, lunch dates etc.
  • Shopping of any kind ( … so I need to get milk and cookies in tomorrow)

A few additions

As well as subtracting, I add a few simple things that feed my soul such as nightly baths dogbath full of really expensive bubbles. Evening candlelight versus electric light. Extended walks on the beach.  Gregorian chants. Nature sounds.

Oh … I should mention there’s one surprising and very pleasant bonus to the ritual of subtraction that might entice you to try it for yourself, and that is this:  If your honey participates alongside you, things can get wonderfully romantic without all those distractions.

Of course, that could create a whole other set of distractions …

So what’s your creative DNA? What creative rituals or processes work well for you? Do you add or subtract things from your week? What are your biggest distractions?

 

Carla Sonheim is a painter, illustrator, and creativity workshop instructor known for fun and innovative projects and techniques designed to help adult students recover a more spontaneous, playful approach to creating. She is the author of Drawing Lab for Mixed Media Artists: 52 Creative Exercises to Make Drawing Fun, and The Art of Silliness: A Creativity Book for Everyone.   

More about Twyla Tharp and her books.